Today is January 11th, and I just want to say, I feel great! I've just woken up and am currently writing this article on my iPhone, planning on putting it on my blog later. [edit: now it's on my blog!]
I want to say that typically I write about things as they come up in my own life. I remember writing a short article a few days ago about problems that might make you freak out. I mentioned you need to keep your cool and things will calm down. Well, it's true.
Things have gotten better now and I feel much calmer. But I do want to talk about keeping your cool in more detail.
Keeping your cool does NOT mean letting people walk all over you. Remember, if there is something that you feel is not right, you have to tell the person you are working with flat out that you cannot continue to work with them.
Sometimes, it's better to stop working with people completely, even if they are paying you. My Dad's friend used to always say to him, "Sometimes you have to pay to clean the shit off your shoes," meaning sometimes you sacrifice something to have less problems to deal with.
I have realized that I have to cut some clients loose and never work with them again because of all the grief I have had to put up with. It's the same with acting: you just have to quit some projects even if they are paying fairly well if you can't deal with them. Want to know the reason why?
I think one of the best examples I ever read had to do with the red velvet rope policy, an idea introduced by Michael Port in his best-selling book, "Book Yourself Solid," one that I highly recommend. He says you have to cut the bad clients and people you work with loose, and raise the bar for future clients. The amount of money and the amount of good clients you have if you do this will rise dramatically.
He outlines these benefits:
1. You will be happier, and will seem more appealing to future employers and clients.
2. You won't have relationships that make you mutually unhappy, which will lead to less people badmouthing you in the future.
3. You will have more time to find happiness.
Getting rid of the bad jobs and sticking with the good will make it not seem like work. Everyone will be happy and you'll get paid more and get more jobs in the long run.
So do yourself a favor and stop letting people walk all over you. But keep your cool when you cut them loose.
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